Agendas

Dear Friends,

Some time ago, someone I know asked to catch up over Zoom. Midway through the conversation, I realized they had another agenda for the call.

While their agenda wasn’t wrong or bad, I found myself thinking, “Why didn’t they just tell me ahead of time? I wish I had known.”

It made me ask, “How much do agendas (spoken or not spoken) impact my life and interactions?

Life is full of agendas — often more than one at once.

We may genuinely want to reconnect with someone and have a favor to ask or to discuss a potential business opportunity.

What is Primary?

In a time when multiple agendas are at play, how do we navigate?

One practice I have is to ask, “What am I LEADING with?”

Am I leading with heart and connection? Am I tuned into the moment and making genuine contact? Or is my agenda running the show?

The best conversation for me are ones when I know my agenda (and express it ahead of time if needed) but prioritize the moment and the person.

It is less, “How do I get what I want?” and more “How do I connect to this person?”

Life Beyond Transactions

The unhappiest people I know are those who are driven by agendas. Everything is transactional. They look at life from the perspective, “What is in this for ME?”

Today, as you move through your day, can you be clear about your agendas? Can you put them in their rightful place?

In my experience, an agenda of connection is generally better than one of transaction. When we do so, the business can take care of itself.

Our next donation-based series for November is below. Hope to see you there.

Blessings,

SOREN

This. month we will explore how to stay connected amidst the conflicts and divisions that inevitably show up in life.

How can these places of conflict be lessons and opportunities to learn about ourselves?

November 11 @ 9am PDT / Noon EDT / 6pm CEST (With Diana Chapman)
Session 1: Speaking from the Heart

November 18 @ 9am PDT / Noon EDT / 6pm CEST
Session 2: Listening from the Heart

November 25 @ 9am PDT / Noon EDT / 6pm CEST (With Dr. Richard Schwartz)
Session 3: Holding Differences

December 2 @ 9am PDT / Noon EDT / 6pm CEST (With Diana Chapman)
Session 4: Understanding Our Triggers